QUOTE(curls @ Feb 2 2007, 08:31 PM) [snapback]116079[/snapback]
I don't find anything difficult about that. Try conversing to someone on your left and ignoring the person to the right. I'm sure just about anyone can cope with that.
yes, but then you aren't 'listening' to both, are you? You are talking about 'ignoring' one and 'listening' to the other...I guess lots of ppl can do that, but that is kinda rude; either towards the person you're pretending to converse with or towards the music.
Honestly, my first suggestion would be to split up actions.
- Either be social, have a talk and perhaps put on some background music for the both of you (over speakers or share the second bud)... perhaps the person talking to you might enjoy some musical distraction as well, as talking with someone partly distracted (like you 'listening' to both sources at once) can be pretty boring!
- Or lock yourself out of the world and tune into the music... unless you consciously select rubbish with semi-attention in mind already, most music you buy should be valuable enough to deserve your full attention (and not in mono either).
really, I do not think I could respect someone who zones out partly during a conversation by listening to music ... and I do not think any of my friends/family could either.
...but if you are really sure about what you are doing... I'd suggest getting a decent pair of open phones (cheapest but very good value for money are Sennheiser px100 or Koss KSC75), tell your companion what open means (that you can actually hear most of the things around you so they can address you if they feel the need) and still have the courtesy to take 'em off for a sec while the conversation lasts...
if this is even too much effort for you... I'd rather suggest for your possible companions not to talk to you